What is your biggest fear? Have you tried to overcome it?

This was a really difficult question to answer actually. I have many smaller fears, things that scare me on a smaller scale, but not a ‘big’ fear of anything in particular. In writing this actually, It made me question what ‘fear’ actually is, and whether the things I’d say I fear, are things I actually just worry about.

I have a fear of spiders. I think thats a real common fear though. It’s just their legs, and the way they creep around under my bed. EWW!. It’s something I just have to leave with though, and I’ll pick them up in a glass and throw them out the window as I don’t have any other choice!

I fear heights. That’s a definite fear. How did I overcome it? Hmm. I put myself in situations where I had no other choice but to face it. I sometimes take the glass lift from the top floor of the shopping center all the way down to the ground floor, and make myself look out over the ground below me. I hate it but for me it’s the best way to deal with it.

I fear loosing the ones I love (through an accident that should have been, or could have been prevented), but I think that that’s a really common fear.

Writing the above was a really difficult one for me, I don’t think I’m a person who hugely has ‘fears’. Not great fears that dominate my life. People expect me to say that my biggest fear is never recovering (from my M.E), but for me, that’s not a fear, that’s a part of life that at the moment (due to there being no cure) I have on control over.

If your friend or partner left his or her email open, would you look? How about a journal? Have you ever peeked at something private?

With past partners (there hasn’t been too many of them actually..), yes, i defiantly did ‘peek’ at things which, for that person, were private.  Back then i was younger; i think my view on what ‘privacy’ meant was different from my view no the subject now. I felt that I diserved to see anything that the other person had on his mobile, or email account.. So yes, I did end up ‘peeking’. I think it relates to me not actually trusting the other person, hence why I’m no longer with those people.

Now, my views on the subject have changed. I really don’t see the need to do that kind of thing. I trust my boyfriend implicitly, and know that he has nothing to hide, or that he’d want to hide anything.

In my opinion, everybody deserves some form of privacy. Even though we’re 100% honest with each other, i don’t expect him to update me on everything that happens in his life. If he doesn’t tell me something (the kind of thing that I’d probably find in his emails or on his phone or journal if he had one), is probably things he doesn’t feel are important enough to tell me, and i respect that.

In addition to the above, I think I’d be slightly hurt, if the person i was with didn’t trust me enough and felt the need to check through my written journal, or my mobile, or my emails. I’d respect the person more, I think, if they where honest with me and asked if they could read through my messages, and I’d be completely open to doing that.